Nick Connor on a couch, smiling at the camera

COACHING FOR MEN

You keep your
word to everyone
but yourself

Everyone else gets the performance. You get the broken promises, the highs that don’t last and the lows that keep coming. I help men keep their word to themselves, so they can walk through any season of life with their head held high.

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01 / THE PROBLEM

You don’t have a
discipline problem

You’re disciplined. You’ve been very consistent at breaking your word to yourself.

The highs are really high. Then the lows hit, and the promises go first. To yourself, to your wife, to your team. You cover the gaps with stories, but it’s all a performance. You’re the one living with the cost.

It feels like a gap between the man you see yourself as and the man you show up as. It isn’t. It’s a loop, and it runs the same way every time.

THE NEGOTIATION LOOP

The argument you have with yourself between knowing what to do and doing it

Every time you lose it, you trust yourself a little less, and the next one gets easier to lose.

Who you areWho you could be

There’s no gap. It’s a loop, and it has momentum. Every time you lose the negotiation, it spins you back toward the man you’ve always been. Every time you win, it carries you toward the man you could be, and the next win comes easier.

It gets hard
A stressful day, a hard conversation, a craving. Your emotions get loud.
You negotiate
“Just this once.” “I’ll start Monday.” “I’ve earned it.” This is where it’s decided.
You give in
The promise breaks, and the loop spins you back. One more scroll at midnight turns into a skipped workout, a short fuse with your kids, a week behind. Before you know it, you’re the man you were a year ago.
The way out
There’s a process for winning step two. It’s called the Daily Playbook.

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02 / THE REAL PROBLEM

Freedom isn’t where
you’ve been looking

You’re not short on freedom because you haven’t made enough. You’re getting what you need from things that feel good for a night and cost you for a year. And more willpower won’t fix that. It just gets you more of the same.

The need

Where you’ve been finding it

Where you aren’t looking

Significance

The title. The bigger number. Being the guy.

Knowing you’re a man who does what he says.

Love and connection

Being needed. Attention. Being liked in every room.

Being the same man at home as you are at your best.

Variety and adventure

Lust. The scroll. The next deal.

Training hard, and doing things that actually scare you.

The Daily Playbook shows you the truth about where you’ve been looking, and gives you somewhere better to find it.

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03 / THE PLAN

Break the
loop

Three steps. The first two you can start today, for free.

See who you are. Get clear on the man you know you’re capable of being.
Win the negotiation every day. Seven small promises, kept every morning, until you trust yourself again. That’s the Daily Playbook.
Show up as him everywhere. At home, at work, in the room. This is where coaching comes in.

7 PRACTICES14 DAYSPROMISES KEPT

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The Daily
Playbook

SEVEN PRACTICES. ONE DAY AT A TIME.

TODAY5 OF 7 KEPT

01Early riser
02Check in with yourself
03Connect to source
04Capture thoughts and ideas
05Visualize today’s tests
06Send a gratitude message
07Daily workout

04 / YOUR COACH

I’ve lost that
argument too

It cost me my marriage. But it didn’t start there.

For most of my life, I was hooked on the performance. As a Division I and professional athlete, it was the recognition, the titles, the status. It was fulfilling until it wasn’t. When I started looking for something more and couldn’t find it, that’s when I started negotiating with myself.

I let my standards slide. I stopped telling the truth and started pretending. I’d built a real business and a real family, and I woke up every day anxious, overwhelmed and disconnected from everything I’d built.

The Daily Playbook is the only thing that’s ever given me this kind of freedom. It forced me to slow down long enough to stop performing, face what I’d been running from, and see who I actually was. That gave me the honesty to face myself and my situation, and the courage to make the hardest decision of my life without all the answers. It’s the same practice I use today, starting again as a single father.

Since 2014, I’ve seen the same thing in the men I coach in the US, UK, Europe, Dubai, Singapore and Australia. They’re so busy performing their life that they’re not living it. The Playbook is where that changes.

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